POV: I Woke Up & Chose Me: 6 Ways to Start Choosing You Daily


POV: I Woke Up and Chose Me

For the longest time, I was waiting. Waiting to be chosen. Waiting for someone to see me, validate me, remind me that I was enough. I was taught that love is earned, worthiness is proven, and being picked means you’re valuable.

So I performed. I molded myself into what I thought would make me worthy. Overextending, over-explaining, overcompensating. But, when everything got too heavy, I was the one left to pick up the pieces. Alone.


That’s when it hit me, I had been doing it all wrong! The love I was begging for? I had to give it to myself. The validation I craved? It was already mine. The belonging I sought? It started with me choosing myself first.

So everyday, I wake up and choose me. Not in a selfish way, but in a self-honoring way. I no longer seek permission to be whole. I no longer wait to be chosen. I lean on God and myself, trusting that I was never meant to prove my worth, just live in it.

Because the truth is, I’ve been enough all along.


6 Ways To Start Choosing You Daily:

Stop Waiting for Permission – You don’t need someone to tell you you’re worthy of rest, love, or success. Give yourself the green light.

Set Non-Negotiable Boundaries – If something drains you more than it fills you, it’s a no. Saying “no” is a form of self-care.

Detach from External Validation – Likes, approval, and applause don’t define you. What do you think about yourself? That’s what matters most.

Sit with Yourself – Solitude isn’t loneliness; it’s where you meet the real you. Journal, pray, meditate—get to know who you are outside of people’s expectations.

Reprogram the "Prove Yourself" Mentality – You are already enough. Your worth isn’t in how much you do for others, it’s in who you are.

Turn to God, Not People, for Identity – People are fickle. Their approval shifts. But God already called you chosen, loved, and enough. Stand in that! 


What’s one thing you’re doing this week to put yourself first?


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