From Chasing to Aligning: Purpose Mate > Soulmate


For the longest time, I desired to find my soulmate, my prince, my fairytale love, someone who matched my energy, my desires, my vibe. I thought chemistry and deep connections were enough, not realizing I was attaching myself to people through attraction, and trauma bonds, mistaking intensity for alignment.

Looking back, I see how unconscious I was in my choices. I wasn’t preparing for love; I was reacting to it. I was entertaining people based on what felt good in the moment, not what was good for my purpose. I was seeking external validation through love and expecting to find my knight in shinning armor, someone to heal my relationship with love. 

Breaking the Cycle 

I didn’t wake up one day with this clarity, no, this took long nights, a lot of tears and a whole lot of deep self-reflection, unlearning old patterns, and intentionally rewriting my love story. That’s where the Love Rewritten Challenge by SLFCARE was manifested. 

Through this challenge, I learned that love isn’t just about finding the right person, it’s about becoming the right person. It’s about healing, setting new standards, and no longer letting past wounds dictate future connections. I realized I had been unconsciously choosing people from a place of lack rather than abundance. I am now learning to choose from a place of wholeness.

Soulmate vs Purpose Mate: 



A soulmate is someone who feels right in the moment. A purpose mate is someone who is right for the journey. A soulmate can spark passion, but a purpose mate ignites destiny. Soulmates often cater to our comfort, while a purpose mate challenges us toward growth.

I used to let attraction lead the way, thinking if the vibe was right, everything else would align. But attraction alone leads to unfulfilled desires and lack of depth, its rooted in lust but true connection needs healing and alignment. 

Creating a Love Standard, Not Just Expectations

One of the biggest shifts I experienced during the Love Rewritten Challenge was understanding the difference between expectations and standards.

I’ve spent years making expectations for love; how they should treat me, how they should show up, how they should look. But expectations are external. Standards, on the other hand, are internal. They’re not about what I expect from others; they’re about what I require from myself.

I am no longer attracted to potential. I am attracted to readiness. I am no longer drawn to people who match my brokenness. I am drawn to people who complement my healing. Self-love is the foundation, and my standard is built on that.

Now, I don’t crave a soul tie, oh I meant a soulmate; am preparing for a purpose bond. A love that feels like peace, not just passion. A partnership that fuels my mission, not just my desires. I am not waiting for love to find me; I am becoming the love I deserve. Because when I am fully aligned with my purpose, my purpose mate will recognize me, just as I will recognize them.

No more chasing, no more forcing. Only aligning. Only preparing. Only being.

Rewrite Your Love Story


The Love Rewritten Challenge helped me break free from unconscious cycles and step into a new version of myself; one that is no longer looking for love in the wrong places but is preparing to receive it in alignment with my purpose.

If you’re ready to stop settling, stop repeating the same patterns, and start rewriting your love story, this challenge is for you. The love you desire starts with the love you give yourself. Let's do the work.

#LoveRewrittenChallengebySLFCARE

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